The Shadow Self
The shadow self is
the part of the person's subconscious mind that harbors the hidden
feelings and effects of traumatic situations. This part of the mind
also holds repressed feelings and reasons, unbeknownst to the person,
that cause them to respond in the manners that they do.
What Lurks in Your Shadows?
Do you know what
makes you do what you do? Why do you get upset at seemingly silly
things, or why do you insist you put your food away in a certain
manner? The shadow self knows, if it relates to something you
experienced and not something you inherited. Some personality traits
can be inherited, and can be addressed during a shadow self session,
but let's look at the traumatic events first.
Reaching Your Shadow Self
How do you delve
into your shadow self? First, meditation. Entering a meditative state
is a safe way to address repressed feelings. Through meditating, you
can reach that part of your brain that holds memories and feelings. Find a quiet place that you can be for about 30 minutes. Concentrate on relaxing your body, starting from the top of your head, down to your toes. Now put yourself into a bubble of bright light. This will give you a sense of protection. If you want, you can put the bubble up before entering meditation. Now that you are relaxed, ask yourself if you are ready to meet the darker parts of your psyche. If you are not ready, you will feel a sense of foreboding. Back out and simply concentrate on what you need to do to get ready. If you are ready, then proceed. You can always back out of the situation if you feel uncomfortable.
When meditating,
concentrate on your shadow self, the part of you that is keeping pain
safe away from your daily existence. If you have not had a traumatic
event, you may do this to find out why you can't keep a date, for
example. Perhaps there is something about you that turns people away
and you really want to figure out what it is, searching your shadow
self will clear this up.
It may feel silly
at first, but once in meditation, talk to yourself silently, ask
yourself what you need to know. What is the first thing to come to
mind? Work with this first. Let your mind flow free, let it come up
with whatever images it wants.
Examine all images
that come to mind, let your mind go where it wants to go. You can do
this little bits at a time,at first, until you are ready to see the
whole picture. Take your time and not push it. Sometimes it takes
several sessions of meditating to reach your shadow self.
You Have Contacted Your Shadow Self
Now that you have
contacted your shadow self and have selected an area to work on, what
do you see? Are you working on why you get mad when a certain subject
is brought up? Maybe you do not know why you do that. Ask your shadow
self to explain to you what is going on, then allow the information
to flow.
If you are
reaching a part of yourself that you know is particularly painful,
such as abuse or a violent attack, and you are hoping to overcome the
nightmares, fears or odd behavior you believe is stemmed from that,
be sure you are emotionally ready. Have a friend with you or you
therapist nearby. This type of shadow work can be emotionally
difficult, but very healing.
Take a Break For the Day
Now that you have
had one session with your shadow self, take a break, have some coffee
or take a nap. Do what you have to do to clear your mind and heart.
It can be very difficult to learn unpleasant things about yourself.
Be proud of your efforts to progress emotionally and become a better
person.
Addressing Inherited Traits
Have you ever been
told that you act “just like Great Grandma or Grandpa”? You have
never met them so how could you act like them? Some personality
traits, even habits, can be inherited. But what if you do something
that defies all logic, that you do not know what causes it or why?
You go through the list, no bad break ups that caused it, nothing
traumatic,but you have been doing this all your life. Where did it
come from?
Go into meditation
and try to reach you shadow self. Once there in your mind, ask
yourself if you have a relative with those personality traits. Your
subconscious can reach areas that you never knew it could sometimes
and you may just make contact at a psychic level, with one of your
relatives. If you do not, that is fine,just stay in your meditative
state and wait to see what comes up. Repressed memories may come
floating in, introducing themselves to you as such. You may see that
your mother and maternal grandmother have the same trait, but you
never noticed before or just never gave it any thought before. You
might release a memory of your mother commenting on how her father
used to do the same thing. It is possible that you were told at some
point, but you felt no need to remember it at the time. Shadow self
work can bring all this to light for you.
Keep your mind
open and expect anything to come to mind. Nothing is wrong, it is
your mind, your memories, your experiences. If when meditating you
see purple unicorns on roller skates, do not worry, this is you
subconscious memories having some fun. Enjoy.
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